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Seeking understanding is the way to knowledge, empathy, and peace. Also, cheesecake is delicious.

I've lived in Missoula for most of my life and enjoy its diversity, both in culture and activities. I value kindness, compassion, empathy, honesty, open-mindedness, and authenticity, as well as intelligence and a sense of humor. I also have ASD, and in addition to being asexual, I'm a quoiromantic demiguy. I usually use he/him pronouns, but in general, I find gender a rather pointless thing. If it matters, I'm an INFP, though of course the MBTI is far from an exact science.

I am extremely interested in language, how it's put together, how languages differ from one another, all the potential sounds and structures, and the like; I actually got my degree in linguistics (or rather, anthropology—it's complicated). My minor was psychology, since I also find that and the related science of neurology fascinating (and I suppose they give me some insight into the weirdness that is my own brain). I tend to be interested in most sciences, actually; I've especially looked into stuff related to chemistry and genetics. It seems like I'm almost always curious about something. I like music, whether it's from a band, choir, orchestra, or even video game (my favorite musical artist is Lenka), and I've played the piano, sung in choir, and composed pieces as well. I like games, be they of the board, card, other tabletop, or video variety. I'm fond of word games like Scrabble and Taboo, but my favorite board/card game is probably Sentinels of the Multiverse. It's hard to find good things to do outside, especially during the winter, but I enjoy folf/disc golf (even though I'm not very good at it) and a nice walk or hike. I'm also interested in computer programming and would like to get better at it, and I have at least some interest in animals and animal companions (just put a cat in my lap, or some kittens). As far as food goes, it's hard to beat my parents' home cooking, especially if they're doing it for a special occasion, though I'd be pleased with a Greek restaurant, a good sandwich place, or some nice sushi. I quite enjoy reading, writing, and other such literary things; I have trouble finding just the right book, but speculative fiction (fantasy and science fiction) is good.

Basically, if taking a walk by the river on a pleasant early autumn afternoon while having conversations about everything from the meaning of life to 25-year-old video games and singing parodies of songs you made up on the spot, then coming home, eating a big salad and an equally big bowl of ice cream, and trying to find some good three-letter words that begin with Z sounds like a fun time, well, here I am.

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My Asexual Preferences

How long have you been asexual?I didn't realize it until about 5 years ago.
What would be your ideal first platonic date?A coffee shop, A dinner, A museum, A hike
Would you describe yourself as bi-romantic or pan-romantic?neither

Appearance

EthnicityCaucasian / White
Height5' 11" (180 cm)
Eye ColorBlue
Hair ColorBrown
Facial HairShaved
Body ArtNone

Situation

Relationship StatusSingle
Has childrenNo children
Wants kidsNo
Housing SituationFriends come over occasionally
Living ArrangementsWith roomate(s)
Wants to RelocateNo
Has a carNo

Education & Employment

EducationUniversity Bachelors
SpecialtyOther

Leisure & Fun

Favorite movies typesScience fiction, Comedy, Family
Music typesRock, Pop, Classical, Dance, Folk
Favorite artistsLenka, ABBA, ELO, A Fine Frenzy, Three Dog Night, Bonepony
Reading selectionComic, Computers, Fantasy, Fiction, Humor, Mathematics, Reference, Poetry, Science, Science fiction, Technical
Idea of funMeeting up with a person or people whose company I enjoy, having a good conversation, going somewhere nice outside, sharing a meal, then coming home and playing games.
HobbiesReading, Music, Internet, Games, Family, Computers

Personality

SmokerDon't smoke
DrinkingLight / social drinker
My great timeHanging out with friends, Staying at home, Trying new things, Reading a book, Playing video games, Going to a museum

Views

Political viewsLiberal
Attend religious servicesOnce a week

Looking For

Must haveIntelligence, Humor, Empathy, Sensitivity, Wit, Thoughtfullness
Look for in a partnerI would definitely like to make more friends, and I take friendships just as seriously as any other relationship. Beyond that, I'm not entirely sure. I hope to be in a romantic relationship or QPR someday, but since I'm quoiromantic, the boundaries between those get pretty muddled for me, and I'm honestly not sure I'd know what kind of feelings I'd have for someone until we really got to know and connect with each other (maybe not even then). Wherever this silly thing called love may lead me, I'd like someone who has a caring heart, a sharp mind, and a trustworthy spirit (really, just look at the values I listed up there), who is willing to try new things but also to stick with the standards sometimes. It would be nice to find someone who's okay with physical affection, such as hugs and cuddling, but I won't judge anyone for any touch aversion. I figure we can start out by being friends, and then we'll see how it goes.
On the first dateProbably go out for coffee or ice cream or something, then a good walk in a park, with some nice conversation the whole way.